Like any other normal girl, I’ve often dreamed of what my future husband will be like. What he’ll look like, the types of things he’ll be interested in, the type of character he’ll have. Normal stuff. While most of that stuff I’m willing to compromise on, his character is not one of those things. And instead of listing out the type of character traits I would like my future husband to have, I thought it would be more fun to list out 10 male characters I think emulate the types of things I would like to see in my future husband. So here goes.
10.) James Lansome, from “First Daughter”
If you’re thinking who?!, I beg you to drop what you’re doing and watch this movie right now. It was one of my favorite movies growing up and I had a massive crush on the love interest, James. Without spoiling the storyline for those of you who haven’t seen it, I’ll just tell you that James is wonderful. He is kind and gentle with Samantha, but also very protective of her. He is respectful of her at all times, but also challenges her when necessary. His love for her is quiet, but steady.
9.) Ross Geller, from “Friends”
While Ross often makes poor decisions where love is concerned, the one decision he always got right was loving Rachel. It took them up until the series finale to finally figure things out, but his love for her never changed. Even though he was married to two other women throughout the series, he always showed his love for Rachel by showing up. He was always there for her as a friend and even after they dated and broke up (and dated and broke up) he never stopped caring about. He didn’t allow their past to change how he cared for her as a friend and I think that is commendable.
8.) Nathan Scott, from “One Tree Hill”
I will admit, I was hesitant to put this on here because I don’t know if I really like Nathan as a character that much. He handles conflict poorly and always seems to be the center of some drama, but I guess that’s what you get for living in a small town. However, his one redeeming quality for me is in his unwavering love and devotion to Haley. He always puts her first and continues to love her fiercely, even when everyone around him, including Haley herself, questions his love.
7.) Jess Mariano, from “Gilmore Girls”
Another flawed character with a redeeming quality: his love for Rory Gilmore. I don’t think that Jess by any means was a good boyfriend to Rory. He kept trying to break her and Dean up when they were together and he ran away without telling her or speaking to her again. And while none of that makes him great boyfriend material, what I do think he offers her that no one else did was that he always challenged her to be better. He pushed her to try harder and ultimately be the best version of herself she could be. Even in the series sequel, he challenges her to write a book and she does, so she obviously regards his opinions very highly. #TeamJess
6.) Ezra Fitz, from “Pretty Little Liars”
While I definitely do not feel good about him dating a student, it’s really hard not to love Erza. He’s smart, well-read, and writer. I completely understand why Aria fell for him. He is not only protective of Aria, but he challenges her creatively, which is a huge thing for me. I want someone to understand my creative side the way that Mr. Fitz gets Aria’s creativity.
5.) Seeley Booth, from “Bones”
Booth is seemingly perfect on paper. He is smart, intuitive, funny, protective of his family, loyal to his friends, has a strong set of morals and a slew of other positive character traits. While he does have his problems with gambling (and it does come between him and Bones a few times), he will do whatever it takes to make sure that his family gets to sleep safely at night. And perhaps what I admire most about him is that even though Bones sees the world in a very different way than he does, he never lets that change his own core set of morals and beliefs. Instead, he challenges her to look outside herself and see things from a different perspective.
4.) Jay Halstead, from “Chicago P.D.”
I’ve only been watching Chicago P.D. for the last two seasons, but man let me tell you, I have fallen in love with Jay. He is tough, doesn’t back down from a challenge, and isn’t intimidated by the fact that his girlfriend is also a badass detective who could kick any guys’ ass. He does his best to protect her (even though she likes to take care of herself) and is there for her like no one else is. Plus he always carries a shotgun whenever they’re going on a raid/man hunt/mission, so he gets an A++ in my book.
3.) Wyatt Logan, from “Timeless”
If you’re not already watching this show, do yourself a favor and start watching it now. If for nothing else than this guy. Wyatt is ex-Delta Force; he is strong, protective of his team and will stop at nothing to bring justice about. And while those are all great qualities, my favorite thing about him is his unwavering devotion to his late wife. You learn in the series that Wyatt’s wife was murdered and they never caught the killer. And even though she’s dead, his love for her has never ceased. He even hijacks the time machine to go back in time to prevent her death from happening. That’s how much he loves her and misses her. I want someone with that kind of devotion.
2.) Troy Bolton, from “High School Musical”
If you’re surprised that he’s not my number one, you’re not the only one. Troy has always been my number one go-to when I think about the type of guy I want to marry one day. He is funny, charming, athletic, thoughtful and creative. Pretty much a perfect mixture of everything. While he is kind of slow to admit his love for Gabriella, it ultimately grows throughout the three movies. In the end he is so confident in their love that he makes the conscious decision to attend UC Berkeley, which is 32.7 miles away from Stanford University, where Gabriella will be attending. If that isn’t romantic I don’t know what is!!!
1.) Jamie Reagan, “Blue Bloods”
My sister and I always talk about how Jamie is our ultimate dream man. He is smart (he graduated from Harvard Law before deciding on becoming a cop after his brother was murdered), he is funny and doesn’t take himself to seriously, he never passes up an opportunity to help someone in need, and most importantly he has a strong set of morals. His family has joked on more than one occasion that he is the only one in the family who could have been a priest. He sees things a little differently than his family and challenges them to change their perspectives. And when it comes to love, he is protective and respectful. He and his partner, Eddie, have a ton of chemistry and they both have admitted to liking each other, but they don’t want to give up being partners just to see where their relationship might go. And Jamie respects that decision, but that doesn’t stop him from always looking out for her, even beyond the workday. Simply put, Jamie is a good guy with a heart of gold.
What I’ve learned from these male characters is that ultimately, I want someone who is protective of me. I want to feel and know that I am safe, both physically and emotionally. I want someone who has a good sense of humor & doesn’t take himself too seriously, but doesn’t feel the need to be the center of attention all the time. I want someone who is creative in some sense of the word, but not necessarily in the same way I’m creative. Creativity is important to me and I think it would be awesome to share that with someone. I want someone who has a strong moral compass and doesn’t waver in their beliefs, but at the same time can keep an open mind. I want someone who challenges me to be the best version of myself. And most importantly, at the end of the day, I want someone who is committed, holds an unshakeable love for me, and is my best friend.
I know that’s kind of a lot of things to desire in a future husband, but to me they are important character traits that I don’t want to compromise on. And I know that this guy exists, I just haven’t found him yet!
P.S. If you are a male and feel you meet the requirements listed above, feel free to slide into my DMs 😉 I am single and ready to mingle!!!
alyssa janell 